Unconditional Love vs. Romantic Love
thoughts and ramblings of a universal mind
The exploration of hyperspace presented me perspectives
on love that I would like to share with our tribe.
I have grown an understanding of love whilst in communication with intra-terrestrial beings that was as best as i could understand; unconditional.
By being unconditional it meant that I could do no wrong. Love without boundaries. I am allowed to be whatever I need to be to further my self education.
This freedom of love further changed me in consensus reality. I started a search to reach this love whilst in the material.
“As above, so below”
see more on this quote here (opens another page)
(abbreviation of a quote from the emerald tablet discovered
in the hand of the corpse of hermes trismigestus)
I personally realised that there are many facets to love as expressed in my current experience of reality.
agape – spiritual love. love of the base spirit of another (for myself this love is the love that begins attraction)
amore – love of the heart that expresses through feelings of or through the heart centre chakra
eros – love of the flesh a love that makes you literally want to join sexually with another
psyche – love of the mind. Without a meeting of minds love seems for myself… imbalanced and without depth.
phileo – brotherly love.
In the past I have expressed all forms of these
types of love in many relationships. My deeper
relationships have been a balance of these types of love.
My most extreme relationships (both emotionally and physically) have been an imbalance of these loves.
Imbalanced love is romantic love.
When I have experienced an imbalance in my expression of love I have also noted an increased sensitivity to my personal situation in relation to my partner.
This is an imbalance toward psyche. I start to worry unnecessarily about where they are, what they are
doing and with whom they are.
If the psyche is not kept in check… jealousy may occur.
When imbalanced toward agape I would over compensate in ways that clouded my experience of what was actually happening. In prior abusive experiences I allowed abuse to occur to myself whilst being what I thought was blissfully happy.
An imbalance toward amore would have me being so giving of myself that I never realised I was being literally drained of energy by my partner. I would lose myself in their situation rather than support them through their process.
Imbalances toward eros would allow for sex obsession and hollow the ways I would engage with my partner.
Unconditional love does not allow for any of these imbalances to form as it enables one to give love in ways that is suitable for themselves without any constraints as prescribed by cultural ideals. Ideals like what we see happening with the games inherent in the expression of romantic love.
How to nurture unconditional love
I personally state to my partners that I will not allow any conditions to be brought upon me or my way of being in life.
I make it clear that as soon as I see any expression that seems like an expression of classic romantic love I am then clear about my stated intentions again of holding and living an unconditional love experience with them.
This means to my mind and soul… absolute freedom.
They, as I, are not bound my prescribed cultural constraints. They, as I, can do whatever they want, whenever they want as long as it does not restrict the experience or expression of an other. They, as I, are free to be together or apart whenever they, or I, choose to be.
The only certainty in this universe is change. To my mind unconditional love supports and nurtures the experience of continuous change and flow in line with universal love.
There are essentially no limits. We are infinite beings.
Lets live it.
with total unconditional love…
christoper j. barnaby xx
disclaimer : I am not a psychologist, i am a consciousness researcher. What you read on this page is the result of some of my explorations into self and experience of life. It is not a prescription for living. I take no responsibility for your infection with these memes.